8 CRUCIAL STEPS TO REACH THE NEXT LEVEL IN YOUR CAREER
Number 1: Keep Your Hands Out of Your Pockets
Our hands are our trust indicators. Along time ago when we were all cavemen and cavewomen, the first place we would look as we approached each other would be the hands. We checked the hands for weapons, spears, stones, or anything that could hurt us, this told us if the other person was a friend or a foe. If they didn’t have a weapon we could assume they were friendly, and of course if they did have a weapon they were NOT! This behavior is encoded in our genetics, so when we can’t see someone’s hands we don’t know if we can trust them. Are they our friend? Or are they our foe? If your hands are in your pockets it is impossible for the subconscious brain to make that decision.
To show others you are trustworthy make sure they can see your palms – “or show them your hand” as the expression goes. If you use palm up gestures they can immediately see that you are not hiding any weapons and therefore think you are not hiding anything from them.
Number 2: Gesturing
Use your hands for open gestures. Using your hands can make your brain more engaged in what you’re saying and therefore make you more convincing. Note that your gestures should always be open and inviting, never aggressive or invading another person’s space.
Use the steeple hand gesture. Forbes suggests using a steeple gesture to communicate sincerity when speaking. To do this, touch the tips of your fingers on one hand to the tips of your fingers on the opposite side, while leaving your palms open.
*Think about making a steeple or a triangle with your hands.