The way you stand and gesture can make you seem more (or less) confident and attractive.
It's easier to outline out exactly what you're going to say then it is to plan out what you'll do with your hands, how you're going to stand, and your facial expression.
But, your body language — whether in an online dating profile picture or during a presentation matters a lot. It is imperative that we pay attention to it.
Listed below I have laid out a series of common body-language blunder that can make you appear less confident, more hesitant, nervous, less attractive, and even more vulnerable to crime.
You have a Weak Handshake
Your handshake is equal to 3 hours of face to face time. It is essential in building rapport with someone. A firm, friendly handshake has long been recommended in the business world as a way to make a good first impression, and the greeting is thought to date to ancient times as a way of showing a stranger you had no weapons.
The University of Alabama did a study in 2000 to find out if people could predict the personality of a person from their handshake alone. They found that the students with a firmer handshake were more outgoing, had positive outlooks, and less socially awkward.
The Journal of Applied Psychology did a study that found in mock interviews students with a firmer handshake at the beginning of the interview were perceived as more hireable.
Researchers found that handshakes are a discreet way to actively search for social chemosignals. We emit odors that influence the behavior and perception of others. After people shake hands, they will often touch their face. Touching your face, allows you to sniff the chemicals on the other person’s hands. Previous studies have suggested that human chemosignals play a role in mate selection, conveying fear, and altering brain activity.
You Make Yourself Smaller
We don’t realize how our posture correlates to the way people perceive us. Research indicates that an expansive posture is more attractive- as opposed to a contracted posture. Think about what you can do to make yourself look larger by expanding our body and taking up as much space as you can. Think about expanding your arms instead of crossing them, stand up straight instead of hunching over, and use a wide stance with your feet planted firmly on the ground.
In 2016 researchers found that pictures of people in contracted (or smaller) positions placed on their dating profile were selected less often than the same people with pictures in expansive positions.
Your Walk Lacks Confidence
Research from 2013 revealed that prison inmates with h